You were born alone. Today strangers will share your life. They will create the illusion for the moment that you are not alone…
Ever wondered what is the real essence of the saying “A Friend in Need is a Friend Indeed”? People talk about the true value of friendship without knowing what it stands for. There are certain categories of friends we most learn to avoid. We all know “fair-weather” friends are no good.” A “fair-weather” friend is just that, they’re there when the times are going good and all is well. As soon as things go bad or you need emotional support, your fair weathered friend will be hard to find and not available. If the bond between two friends is strong, true friends can endure even long distances. They find a way of being in touch despite busy schedules.
There is this other category of “know-it-all” friends, they are always telling us why our life is not right and how things will turn out unless we do exactly what they say. They are motherly and they will smother us. They, however, will not ask for your input or advice. “In short, friends cannot be your family, they can’t be your project, they can’t be your psychiatrist. But they can be your friends, which is plenty’
So what is the remedy? In “Madea goes to jail” writer Tyler Perry states this: “Friends can be compared to trees. There are friends that are like the leaves, these would be equal to “fair-weather”. There are there for a while but then they are gone when the season change. Then you have those that are like the branches, they are more durable than the leaves but eventually they will not be able to support all the circumstances you go through in life and will break away.” Now this is not a bad thing but you must understand that not all friend are met to be around all the time. There will come times where you will outgrow some of your friends or you may have a friend come into your life for just a certain time and once they have accomplished what they were suppose to accomplish in your life they will move on. Let them go. The most important fact is leaves and branches grow back. These friends will be replaced in time.
Back to Tyler Perry’s definition of friends being like trees: “Then you have those that are like the trunk of the tree, these are similar to your life long friends.” They will be there when times are tough, when you lose your job, when you have bad relationships and spats with your family. These friends are few and far in-between. Just look around and see those that are there for you in your times of need. The ones that will step out of their own comfort to help you. They will laugh, cry, get angry, protect, tell the truth and the list goes on. They add to you in more ways then one. They are a support system to you. They listen and their advice comes from what is best for you with out self motives.
Finally Perry states that you have friends that are like the root of the tree. These friends are friends that are sent to aid you in anyway necessary. They add quality to your life and those around you. They are the ones that know you need something and they do it without you asking them. They are the ones that are your friend even when everyone else is questioning your character. They never change, they are always the same. Simply put how to determine your real friends, look at your life and see who has been there for you through thick and thin. Besides your family, you will find that you have a few friends that are true-blue.
you after you had a fight. (Even if it was with them). A simple friend expects you to always be there for them. A real friend expects to always be there for you!
How can we find true friendship in this often phony, temporary world? Friendship involves recognition or familiarity with another’s personality. Friends often share likes and dislikes, interests, pursuits, and passion.
How can we recognize potential friendship? Signs include a mutual desire for companionship and perhaps a common bond of some kind. Beyond that, genuine friendship involves a shared sense of caring and concern, a desire to see one another grow and develop, and a hope for each other to succeed in all aspects of life. True friendship involves action: doing something for someone else while expecting nothing in return; sharing thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment or negative criticism. Those mutual attributes become the foundation in which recognition transpires into relationship, Trust is essential to true friendship Faithfulness and loyalty are key to true friendship. Without them, we often feel betrayed, left out, and lonely. In true friendship, there is no backbiting, no negative thoughts, no turning away.
1ST Samuel 20 focuses on the friendship of David and Jonathan. These two men truly cared for each other and had great trust and confidence in one another. David was running for his life from Jonathan’s father, Saul. Jonathan recognized that David was innocent. Because of the true friendship they shared, David survived Saul’s assassination attempts and went on to become one of Israel’s greatest kings.
Real and true friendship involves freedom of choice, accountability, truth, and forgiveness. .
Real friendship looks at the heart, not just the “packaging.” Genuine friendship loves for love’s sake, not just for what it can get in return. True friendship is both challenging and exciting. It risks, it overlooks faults, and it loves unconditionally, but it also involves being truthful, even though it may hurt.
Humans are designed by God for lasting relationships. Often our isolationist society offers only vague, empty relationships. God wants us to have friends here on earth. Most of all, He wants us to be friends with Him!
Friendship is a term used to denote co-operative and supportive behavior between two or more people. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, and affection and respect along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of need or crisis. Friends will welcome each other’s company and exhibit loyalty towards each other.