The Art of Happiness
The concept of Happiness has long been mistaken as a satisfaction derived from mundane things . Abraham Lincoln denies this premise by quoting “Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be. It is something you cultivate from the inside”
Martha Washington quotes “ I am determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation I may find myself. For I have learned that the greater part of our misery or unhappiness is determined not by our circumstance but by our disposition.”
Proverbs 16:20 “He that handles a matter wisely shall find good: and whoever trusts in the LORD, happy is he”.
In the book ‘The art of Happiness’ the writer states, “We most acknowledge the concepts that the purpose of life is happiness, that happiness is determined more by the state of one’s mind than by one’s external conditions, circumstances, or events—at least once one’s basic survival needs are met and that happiness can be achieved through the systematic training of our hearts and minds”.
Training the mind: In this context includes intellect and feeling, heart and mind. “By bringing about a certain inner discipline we can undergo a transformation of our attitude, our entire outlook and approach to living”
“If you harbor hateful thoughts or intense anger deep within yourself, then it ruins your health; thus it destroys one of the factors for happiness”
We are born into a certain state of mind about happiness, but we can change our outlook by being happier in each moment. For example, we can find more happiness with ourselves through self-worth. Self-worth is having a source of affection, compassion, and a sense of dignity . We need a strong sense of contentment to feel happier without obtaining objects, which assists in finding self-worth.
Try not to want!!!. If you know something may tempt you avoid it.
Psalms 23 of the Holy Bible resonates this “The LORD is my shepherd, I lack nothing, thy shall not want”. Positive desires are good.
“We have to maintain an attitude of friendship and warmth in order to lead a way of life in which there is enough interaction with other people to enjoy a happy life”. The purpose isn’t to create tension but a positive atmosphere. This gives our life meaning, which leads to overall happiness. That positive atmosphere can be found through closeness and compassion.
Define compassion as a state of mind that is nonviolent, nonharming, and nonaggressive. “Cultivating compassion and joy is not a linear process; it’s organic, like growing flower”. If you work regularly at decreasing your compulsive desires and narcissism while also striving to develop compassion, it is like weeding and then planting, fertilizing, and watering seeds in your garden.
Big results do not come immediately. However, if you choose a few of these methods and practice them each day or each week for a while, gradually you will see beautiful results. “There is nothing more marvelous than the flowering of compassion in our hearts and relationships.” These wise words come from Lorne Ladner.
In one of the most startling chapters, Ladner points out that gratitude and sensing one’s own inner wealth are important practices for developing happiness and compassion. Some of the obstacles to its cultivation are the compulsive desire to be liked and accepted by others, not taking care of ourselves, and self-hatred
Compassion creates self-acceptance, forgiveness, well-being and lays the foundations for developing an adaptable happiness that cannot be swayed by life circumstances and challenges.
Compassion helps you be more connected to the world, more present, less afraid. “It rewires brains and heals prejudice” Christopher Hansard
Accepting another’s suffering brings that person a sense of connectedness and gives us a willingness to reach out for others. Associating oneself with this type of fundamental rights generates love and compassion. “the feeling of genuine compassion is much stronger, much wider [and] has a profound quality” . Using genuine compassion creates a special connection that you cannot achieve with associating compassion with attachments. “Compassion provides the basis of human survival”
“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude”.
Don’t worry, Be happy and stay blessed.